Let’s Face It, Sometimes the Holidays DO Suck…

Can I share something real, raw and maybe even a little ‘silly’?

It’s the day before Thanksgiving. I’m living in what I believe to be the most amazing place – the West Coast (seriously it is sooo gorgeous on this coast!). I’m head over heels in love with an amazing man! I’m getting ready to head off to my favorite place for 3 nights – the ocean.


I’m stilling feeling a little down in the dumps.

It almost seems silly that I could be so happy and living an amazing life but yet feel down too. You see, I made a cross country move from Michigan to the West Coast back the end of August and I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t feeling homesick right now. This is the first year I haven’t been with family, my son or friends for the Holidays. And I won’t be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas so I’m really feeling it!

So, yeah I’m a bit sad about it. And it got me thinking about how the holidays aren’t always joyful and happy for people. There’s a lot of grief right now – look at all the families and people that have lost everything, literally everything, in the California fires. Or those that have recently lost loved ones. Or this and that and this and that – the list goes on.

I mean, we’re all struggling with something. Whether it’s big or small, doesn’t matter…

Sometimes the holidays DO suck! 

BUT…. we don’t have to choose to stay in a funk or belief that they suck. Instead, we can choose to think positive and do something to help us feel better!

Here are some of my funk be gone ideas:

  • Listen to music
  • Going along with music, DANCE! Seriously, just get up and move your body – it’s hard to feel down when you’re dancing 🙂 My favoritest song right now to groove to is Sway by Danielle Bradberry. LOVE it!

  • Journal – sometimes just writing what we’re feeling and thinking is enough to get it out of our head and let’s us move on.
  • Call a friend
  • Read
  • Go to a movie
  • Volunteer! It is really hard to be down in the dumps when you are doing something for someone else! See if there is a soup kitchen or a local church, somewhere that is doing something for the needy/homeless and go help.
  • Go for a walk
  • Go for a drive
  • If you’re missing family (yes, even if family drives us bat shit crazy – not that I’m speaking from experience 😉 – we can still miss them!), video chat with them. Technology like Facetime, Skype, Zoom, etc. have made it so easy to see our loved ones even from a gazillion miles away
  • Get to an AA meeting – as a woman in recovery, this is really important. The holidays can be one of the worst times of year for the addict. There is often a lot of alcohol around for the “normies” (you know the ones that can have one beer or one glass or wine and stop at that). Have a way out if you need it – tell family ahead of time you’ll be leaving in an hour, take a recovery friend with you, have your sponsor check in with you, etc. If possible, get to a meeting! Or check out an online meeting (I have never used this particular site so can’t vouch for how good the meetings are). Whatever you have to do to protect yourself and your sobriety during the holidays, DO IT…please!

And remember, there is always something to be grateful for. That could be another item on the list – write down 3 things you’re grateful for every day. Choosing to find things we’re grateful for is also another way to get rid of the funk.

Have any suggestions to add to my list? Leave a comment below, I’d love to have some more funk be gone tools in my arsenal!


  • Kelly

    The holidays have been less than stellar by my dreamy standards for quite a while. My extended family is fractured and complicated on so many levels it is not possible to have a big gathering that doesn’t make someone uncomfortable. This makes me want to just avoid it all.

    This year I’m chilling out at home mostly by myself and it’s what I WANT to do when considering the options. It sucks but I can’t make other people do anything they don’t want to do – so I choose this and will enjoy the rest and recharging time.

    I love you and pray you have a great time!

    • Tishia

      You’re right, we can’t make other people do what we want them to do (wouldn’t it be nice if we could…or maybe it wouldn’t always be a good thing lol). I’m sorry you had to spend the holiday at home, but it sounds like rest and recharging is a positive outcome 🙂

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