For pretty much most of my life I sucked at setting boundaries. It didn't matter if it was personal or work/biz, I was scared shitless to set boundaries. Because heaven forbid I put myself first and take care of ME (yes, setting boundaries is taking care of ourselves, ladies!) and not please every other person around me – boyfriends, family, friends… hell, even strangers too!
Thankfully, once I decide to get sober (several years ago now) and start doing some inner work I was able to believe I deserved to put some boundaries in place even if that meant people would get pissed. I'd like to say it's been easy setting (and keeping) those boundaries but that's definitely not the case. I even found myself recently needing to set some boundaries and it was scary and super hard but my mental health desperately needed it.
You always hear everybody talking about how great it is to set boundaries. But what about the good, bad, and ugly of boundary setting?
Well, Lana Goes talks about all that in the post What No One Tells You About Setting Boundaries: The Good, Bad, and Ugly. And I love this that she said:
…I’ve concluded that being assertive and setting boundaries is not as easy as it sounds. But it’s the only way to regain your sense of self, sanity, and self-love.
Yep, she nailed it on the head with that last sentence! If you want to learn more about the benefits of maintaining boundaries, why it's so difficult to set them, how to start setting them, and what no one tells you about setting them be sure to read her post: What No One Tells You About Setting Boundaries: The Good, Bad, and Ugly.