I. just. want. to. date.
I just want to get out there and meet guys. I just want to find someone to get to know and see where things go.
But what do I get?
Another freaking d*ck pic!
C'mon guys.
This is how I would have handled this before
Oh boy, here comes a confession…
A pic like that would have gotten me engaged in conversation with the dude. Why? Because it was a man and he was showing me attention! Let's face it, I'm a BIG girl. I've struggled with weight my whole life. And I've also (and still sometimes do) struggled with low self-esteem, knowing my worth, etc. So, yeah hey if a man was sending a pic I didn't want to see, I didn't care. He was giving me attention. and that's all I cared about.
I'm sure I don't have to go into details about how these situations turned out. But, in case you're wondering – they ended up being real big d*cks… and not in the sense the guys were thinking about big d*cks. In other words, they were just assholes. As soon as I started engaging in conversation with them, it always went from bad to worse. I accepted the pic so they naturally assumed vulgar dirty messages were ok too. And sadly, I accepted them talking to me like that as ok too. Again, because it was attention and I so craved a male's attention – no matter what.
Thank you sweet baby Jesus that I've learned my true worth…
This is how I handle it now
It doesn't matter how many times I get one, there's still a moment of shock when I open a message and have that thing staring me in the face. But once the shock wears off, I laugh. I mean seriously – what can you do but laugh at these dudes and their lack of…I don't even know what to call it, etiquette? Then I delete and block. No need for a response because they don't deserve my time or energy. Besides, what would an appropriate response be to a pic like that…”how's it hanging?” Nope, they already showed me that LOL {sigh}
In all seriousness though, now that I have learned to love myself, respect myself, and see my value, I know I CAN expect MORE! I don't have to settle for anything less – than someone who respects me and values me – just for the sake of having attention from a man.
Alright, I know I can't be alone in this situation! Share your thoughts with me – do you have the same experience and how do you handle it?
Ha, this post title made me laugh! Good for you, though – it’s interesting how realizing our worth gives us the freedom to change our standards. 🙂
hahaha Kelly came up with the title 🙂 And it’s so amazing how differently we view situations, reaction to situations, etc. once we realize our worth!
I think I got my first d*ick pic in 1996 or 7. In truth, it scared me to death back then. I felt violated and abused. Now that I’ve lived longer I still think it’s animalistic, rapey, idiotic behavior but my reaction would be the same. Delete and block. No comment. No reaction.
Hi Stephanie! Thanks for swinging by and commenting 🙂 It definitely seems to be a lot more common these days – every woman I’ve talked to that is in the dating scene has told me they’ve received them too. Just because it’s the “norm” now-a-days certainly doesn’t mean I have to accept it. I want more than that, that’s for sure (not to mention I and all women deserve more than that)!